Lang Ranch Elementary School

Discipline With Love and Logic

The Conejo Valley Elementary Counselors presented a parenting series last school year called "Discipline With Love and Logic" by Jim Fay and Foster Cline. The series consisted of six presentations teaching invaluable strategies and tools to help parents establish healthy control without resorting to anger, threats, nagging, or exhausting power struggles. Parents truly benefited from any session that they attended, yet, the series was most beneficial when parents attended all six sessions. The parenting series was presented at ASPEN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL.

All the sessions have accompanying newsletters. These newsletters are available on University Elementary School's website at http://ww2.conejo.k12.ca.us/university/jslandl.html

LOVE:

It takes a great deal of love to...

     Find the positives in our kids when they act poorly.

     Hug them before we ask them about their homework.

     Set limits without anger, lectures, or threats.

     Hold them accountable for their poor decisions by providing empathy first and consequences second.

LOGIC:

When we give this special kind of love, a wise type of logic grows in their minds: "When I make poor decisions, it makes my life pretty sad. I wonder how my next decision will affect me?"

"Discipline With Love and Logic" is based on love, which allows children to grow through their mistakes, and logic, which allows them to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is built on three simple ideas.

1) Set limits through enforceable statements.
2) Give choices within limits.
3) Consequences are given without anger.